Single for 2018. That’s me. Sure, I’ve been newly single for a few months (after a 7 year toxic relationship which you can read about here), but to think about being truly and utterly single for an entire year?? Is it possible to be single and happy?
UM YES. Bring it on. You’re probably thinking I’m crazy but hear me out.
I am beyond excited and I think it’s because of the taste of singleness I’ve been riding on these past few months- especially when I realized OMFG I actually WANT to be single !!
P.S. keep up with my single life adventures @itsroxyjames on instagram
I’m definitely not saying I want to be single foreverrrrr, but I am saying that I want to be single for 2018. It’s been sooooo long since I actually had a whole year to myself so I am beyond ready for this challenge.
With the acceptance of my new life of singleness, I had to share some inspo on how I’ve managed being single so far AND how I intend on being single AND happy for this year. These 10 ways are based off of my personal experience and I’ve been putting them into practice for a few months now.
My blog grows with me, so think of this as my “single life research project”- except that it’s way more fun to read.
1. Celebrate your singleness
Being single is often thought about as a scary, miserable life. But from what I’ve learnt, it’s anything but. The liberation and independence makes me giddy with excitement. There’s no stress, no commitment, no trust issues. You have the freedom to do any. single. thing. you want to do. Go wherever you want. Wear whatever you want. Honestly, the list can go on and on because you don’t have to take anyone else’s opinions into consideration. You can be YOU. Fully and wholly you. If that isn’t a cause for celebration, then I don’t know what is.
2. Reinvent yourself
Think of this as a fresh start. After a relationship, sometimes you need a welcoming change. You want a feeling of “newness”. It doesn’t have to be anything too drastic. It could be as simple as a new haircut or changing up your style, or even a meaningful tattoo (raises hand). Do something that would make your smile every time you look in the mirror and remember how amazing you are.
3. Buy new lingerie
And lots of it. Sex up your underclothes for you. You don’t need to wear lingerie only when you have a guy in your bed. Nor should you feel sexy only for a guy. Girl do it for you. Say yes to that red, sexy, lace thong, matching lingerie, boy-shorts- ANYthing you like that makes you feel good.
4. Gym aka revenge body
One of the best ways to get out of your head and do something positive for yourself, is to hit the gym. There’s nothing as rewarding and satisfying as becoming stronger physically, mentally and emotionally. Push and challenge yourself. Eat clean and get down and dirty at the gym. If you don’t like the gym, maybe you can try something like soul cycle, zumba, salsa dancing or anything to get you pumped while still working on your body.
Sometimes you need a change of scenery to just get out of your head and there’s no better way than to travel. Leaving everything behind and just going on a new adventure will surely make you feel a sense of excitement and happiness inside your soul. Again, it doesn’t have to be flying halfway across the world (if you can then go for it!!) but something as simple as going to a beach or a wildlife park or anything that will get you out of your room.
6. Focus on something new
Forget the mind-numbing urge to gravitate towards alcohol or destructive behaviour. Find a good & positive distraction to keep your mind from wandering to dark places. Do something beneficial for yourself- something to improve YOU. Pick up a new hobby or immerse yourself in a new course or skill. It can also be very rewarding to be able to pour your energy into and direct your attention towards something beneficial to improving your life.
Hold on to your friends and be sure to nurture those friendships. Your friends will be the ones who will keep you grounded, not to mention be there for you for your million of venting sessions you’re surely going to have.
Use the single life to get to know YOU. You can read self-help books (no shame in that!!) to inspire you and give you a different perspective on life. A gratitude journal is also an amazing habit to get into, because it will remind you that there are so much things to be thankful and appreciative of.
9. Treat yourself
All that extra money that you suddenly have because you don’t have to shop for someone else, or think about birthdays and Valentine’s and all the holidays, not to mention going on dates. Use that money on YOU and be good to yourself because you deserve it. Instead of downing yourself in a bottle or leaning towards destructive behaviours, treat yourself to monthly manicures, blow-outs, full body massages and anything else that will make your feel amazing.
10. Date yourself
Why the hell do you need a guy to go on a date?! Go have sushi and a glass of wine one night, buy yourself a huge bouquet of roses, go shopping for new clothes. There are so many ways to just date yourself and be happy for the freedom you have to do everything you want to do.
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